It’s a real shame that the term “trophy wife” has taken on the connotation that it has. (but then again, it’s a shame people see selfishness as evil, greed as sin and profit as the worst thing you can seek) The negative usage of the term ‘trophy wife‘ inspires thoughts of a “useless woman” (beyond ‘looking good’) used as a material adornment that is assumed to be unearned and more akin to a ‘purchase’, generally by a rich, older man, as an ‘object’ to show off. An object he has only earned through the price he pays. An object that only stays with him because he pays it. This interpretation of the phrase is not what I refer too in this instance.
If you think about the term ‘trophy wife’ it would seem to be a noble distinction. The word trophy itself is synonymous with award, keepsake, prize or ‘gold-medal’. It is defined as “something awarded or granted, as for merit“. The last of the list of synonyms specifically is a worthy example of what I mean; ‘gold-medal’. Gold being a standard of value. The highest standard of value.
The origins of the word ‘trophy’ originally dealt with military conquest. It derives from a greek word tropaios meaning ‘of defeat‘. But I am speaking more to the modern interpretation of the word ‘trophy’ as relates to merit and a sign of achievement. As ‘gold’ is a ‘worthy’ example of a trophy, ‘worthiness’ is an appropriate word for the reason one is awarded any trophy. Or at least one worth having.
What made me think of this was a combination of events. (a combination interesting enough that I may post a follow-up entry on the genesis of this entry tomorrow) But the events were culminated when I saw a link to a YouTube video blog posted on a friend’s facebook wall. The link was to the vBlog of Cristina Rad titled, ZOMGitsCriss.
What I saw, I must admit, was what a typical guy might when seeing such a link – all summed up in two words: ‘hot blond!!!’ Upon clicking the link I very quickly started to forgot about her looks and got drawn into what she was saying. That particular vBlog (or at least the links that were visible to me) appeared to focus mostly on religious topics, a subject I have been speaking up a great deal about lately. Not only did she seem to reflect some of my views, but she did so intelligently and in a very creative and entertaining fashion.
After watching a couple of her videos I started to look around the page for more information. There was a link to a [written] blog, (one she had mentioned it at the start of the most recent video linked by my friend on Facebook) titled K-Rina. I went to it as well. It too was very well done; intelligently written, creative and entertaining. And yes, Cristina Rad would make for an exceptional ‘Trophy Wife’ by this standard.
I must admit that when I saw the picture at first on my friends wall and as I clicked it was when the words ‘trophy wife’ first popped in my head – somewhere way in the background – and in the less flattering colloquial sense. With a meaning more akin to that Greek origin of a ‘conquest’. She knocked my socks off so quickly with her ability to use her mind, I felt embarrassed for thinking it at all – but then changed my mind when I stopped and thought of the words.
Any woman like this (this applies to all women of that caliber, but I happily write this entry as my own tribute or trophy to Cristina) is not likely going to be swept off her feet by any rube with a slick first-line and a pretty face. No, any guy that is going to not only gain her attention but keep it by living up to her expectations is going to have to earn that privilege.
Am I referring to doing airs for her or showering her with meaningless material gifts? No. He will have had to earn it long before he has ever met her, as she has long since earned it, and has in regards to the tribute I am giving to her now.
The kind of woman that I refer to is one that is not only self-confident and intelligent but is someone who has high standards. And those standards too are earned. One earns such standards by living up to them… every day.
So yeah, I want me a trophy wife. One that is of the sort that I will have to have earned. That is as much a testament to her as it is a challenge and testament to me. Not to ‘win’ a woman such as that, but to live my life as such that I deserve one.
I would like to add a final thought before I leave this topic. Among the notions I listed for the ‘negative’ connotation of the phrase ‘Trophy Wife’ was the concept that it is something one would ‘show off’. This concept carries over in to what I am describing. If I had such a wife, you’re damn right I would show her off! She would have earned the privilege. And if a woman like that chose to be with me, I would have earned the right!