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Three young kids are being asked what they did on Christmas. One is a protestant, one is a catholic and one is an objectivist.

The first kid gets all excited when it’s his turn and says:

Oh oh oh, …we got up in da mornin, we has our brekfests – then the hole famiwee goes down to da church and we prays really hard to thank God for our presents. then we hurry home and we opens our presents and we play with all our presents all day!

The second kid is all excited too and says:

We got up an has our brekfastes too! Then we gots to opan all our presentes, then we go to da church and has da Christmas mass and we tank Jesus for our presents. Then we hurried home and we played with our presents all day!

Finally they ask the objectivist kid what he did on Christmas. He nonchalantly said:

“oh we got up and had a nice continental breakfast. Then dad said ‘It is time to celebrate!
So we got in the limosine, and he took me down to the toy warehouse and we looked at all the empty shelves.”

(all due homage to Dave Allen, R.I.P. for the original joke, slightly reworded for my O’ist friends)

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Well, the Christmas season is over and perhaps this should have been a post for before the Christmas gift giving season, but it’s a topic that came up a few times after Christmas rather than before, so I thought I would write on it now.

Christmas is the season of giving!  We get bombarded by all sorts of altruistic phrases, greetings, cards, songs, TV Specials, movies, plays, etc. all talking about the spirit of giving.  So what in the world could selfishness possibly have to do with Christmas?  Well what doesn’t it have to do with giving gifts at Christmas?

What am I talking about?  Well, let’s step back a second and consider some worn out Christmas clichés that people often bemoan this time of year.  How many times have you heard the line about getting a ‘tie again’? (or fill in any other item that you have too many of already and therefore don’t need)  Or worrying about what to get for someone that ‘has everything’ or ‘needs very little’?  How many times have you worried about whether or not someone will ‘like’ a present or even something as simple as whether or not it’s the right size/color/style, etc.?  And of course, since it is after Christmas, we are all more than aware of the returns and re-gifting that goes on, and most of us don’t want to find out that something we gave ended up there!

Well, if it’s about the giving, why should any of that matter?  Sure, part of the Christmas spirit is accepting any gift graciously and showing appreciation.  But I’m not speaking from the receiving side.  I’m talking about the concerns people have when gifting in the first place.  And the magic word is in the last sentence of the prior paragraph: ‘want’.  Most of us want to get something that the people we are giving the item to will actually like or be able to use.  i.e. something of value.

And value is the important thing to consider here.  Unless we are a completely braindead altruist, we are generally giving to people (or in some cases charities) that we value in the first place.  Our giving is an expression of our appreciation from us for the receiver in some way.  And we not only want to give them something, but we want that something to be of value to them.  We want them to like it, to be happy, to have something useful, to improve their life or their emotional state in some way.

Why do we want that?  Because of the value the person has to us.  Because it makes us happy in return to know we could do something of value for them.  And that is another important phrase: ‘in return’.  It is an exchange.

The spirit of Christmas does not have to be a notion of thankless giving nor should it be.  The act of giving, and giving real value – value that is important to the receiver of the gift beyond the act of giving itself is a selfish thing and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

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